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Monday, July 17th, '17

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PETER, PAUL AND MARRIAGE

"Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife..." (1 Peter 3:7 NKJV)

 

Chuck Swindoll once used that little play on words...cute. There isn't room here for Paul's take on Peter, Paul and Marriage but we can at least examine one line from the lead apostle, Peter. First he addressed "husbands", that is from the Old English words hus or "house" and band. He is the house-band, the one that cinches up the belt of security around the home. The husband fills dual roles as provider and protector.

 

The second word is "likewise". It refers back to Peter's discourse on submission, the wife's submission to her husband (3:1-6) and the believer's submission to the Lord (2:21-25). Submission means to come "sub" or under the mission. We are "under" Christ, under marching orders, under covenant, under the banner. For successful marriage husbands must surrender to Christ's headship.

 

The third thought is "dwell with them". That means more than sharing a couch, checkbook or queen-size bed. Two people can inhabit the same room but be miles apart. A twelve-page newspaper can be an impenetrable veil when a husband chooses inattention. Katherine Hepburn quipped, "If you want to sacrifice the attention of many men for the inattention of one man go ahead and get married". Dwell "with" them. "With" implies "along side of, in harmony with, together", not above domineering or demanding. "Dwelling" carries the thought of happy home-life. A dwelling is not a pit stop or a boarding house. It is life's oasis, the place where we go to refuel, a safe zone.

 

Fourth, Peter calls for dwelling "with understanding". In other words, be considerate. Try to understand. Some things about the wife he will never understand but at least men can try. The old version says we are to dwell "according to knowledge". Know your wife. Know what makes her tick (and tick off). One guy was asked if he knew his wife's favorite flower, to which he replied, "I think Pillsbury".

 

Lastly, Peter admonishes, "...giving honor unto the wife..." That is done by acknowledging her, by considering her wishes, not ignoring her, and esteeming her as valuable. The best habit in "cohabit" is the habit of honoring your wife. There is a preachers' wives video out on You-Tube mimicking Carrie Underwood's mega-hit, maybe next time he'll think before he cheats. The revised version says maybe next time he'll think before he speaks. Oh, how many preachers' wives have been made fun of in sermons over some episode that the Rev thought was amusing! She is your Mrs., not point three on an outline. At least these wives didn't take a Louisville slugger to both headlights, slash a knife through all four tires or carve their initials into his leather seats. We can honor by saying, and to a degree, by not saying. "Giving" there implies release, a letting go of control for the sake of edifying the other. That's not asking much but it will definitely reap much.


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