Thursday, April 5th, '18
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message by Kris Jackson
two walk together, unless they are agreed?" (Amos 3:3)
Soul-mate, stalemate, wedlock, deadlock,
whatever you want to call it, there is a point of impasse in so many marriages.
Dialogue to one is an argument to the other. One party heads to a different
room burning; the other is left standing there in a chill. It can happen
between business associates, sometimes a father and son, most tragic for a
husband and wife. There are soul-mate relationships where never a cross word is
spoken. "One flesh" becomes literal and it's not a pigheaded battle between my
flesh or yours. Life is continual complimenting and complementing with eyes
a'twinkle. An hour together on the phone seems like a minute.
Now enter the less storybook world. The colors
depicting the sexes in Freudian psychology are red and blue but the two colors
on a checker board are red and black. It's on that checkerboard that stalemate
occurs. Earth's gravitational poles create its magnetism. The poles are on
opposite ends but they are anything but opposites. They work together,
AGREEMENT. That requires compromise, a co-promise. The marriage license
is an agreement. It comes with the assumption that people can budge. Amos said
that two can't even walk together if not agreed. When a runner slows down and a
laggard speeds up the result is a walk together.
Another key word in marriage is ATONEMENT. Ruth
Graham, Billy's wife, said that marriage is "the union of two forgivers". Asked
if divorce had ever been an option she quickly answered "no; murder, maybe".
Unbelievable that skin so soft before marriage can have such friction
afterward. Paul said we have a "ministry of reconciliation" and that doesn't
only involve being reconciled to God. Atonement is God's at-one-ment and
there will be many times in any marriage that a couple will have to apologize
consider the word, ASSIGNMENT. People can walk
together where there is a joint-assignment. Your ministry is not yours alone.
The eight-cylinder motor is only hitting on four when one party fails to see
the big picture. Eve was Adam's "rib". That means his support structure. In 1
Kings 7:3 that same Hebrew word translated as "rib" is called a "pillar". A
true soul-mate will be a pillar of strength for the other person and work
toward the divine assignment. Sydney Smith claimed that marriage "is like a
pair of shears oft times working in opposite directions but punishing anyone
that comes between them".
The closing word is ASSESSMENT. Is that a
pretty accurate portrait of your home? Some refuse to assess their situation
because it puts demands upon them for change. But we seek improvement in
everything else; look at the self-help book sales, so why should we not
prioritize getting along better? "Can two walk together?" The answer is, yes.
Easy for soul-mates, but not completely impossible for stalemates. Buying
flowers is a good start. One guy, asked what his wife's favorite flower was,
replied, "I think Pillsbury Gold Select". It's going to take God a lot of work
for him. But that's the good part; God is at work.