Wednesday, April 11th,
All rights reserved © message by Kris Jackson
I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house..." (1
Timothy 5:14 NKJV)
No, I don't speak with a lisp and you didn't
read that wrong. Not desperate housewives but despot housewives.
The Greek word used in this text is oikodespoteo which literally means, house
despot. A despot is a king or a ruler. In this case, wife, you're the queen
of the castle. You are a manager. The New English Bible translates that you are
to "preside over a home". That entails much more than doing household chores.
Paul put a scepter in the ladies' hands, not a mop. So many readers mistakenly
view Paul as a male chauvinist wanting to keep womanhood barefoot and pregnant.
It helps to go to the Greek to get the story right. Oikodespoteo elevates
position. No religion elevates women like the Christian faith. Talk about
desperate housewives; try looking under the veils of Taliban wives if you think
Paul was so stern.
The older women in the church are commissioned
to train the younger to "love their husbands, to love their children, to be
discreet, chaste, homemakers..." (Titus 2:4,5) Now there's a strategy worth
trying out, just love everybody. Good Housekeeping may not be Cosmopolitan but
it is a Woman's World (sorry, I had to do that). God encoded the nesting
instinct in your DNA. Why fight it? Adam builds the house; Eve decorates it.
"Thy wife shall be like a fruitful vine by the sides of thine house..." (Psalm
128:3) A vine or ivy grows all over the walls and takes over the place. Men,
accept that she wants to know everything and be a part of everything, and get
with the program. She was designed that way.
The house despot, however, is not supposed to
be bossy. Effective leadership is servant leadership. "She watches over the
ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness" (Proverbs
31:27). An earlier verse said, "All her household is clothed with scarlet". The
word house-"hold" implies that she is responsible for some valuable holdings.
With management comes responsibility and accountability. The apostle heard that
some women were "wandering from house to house, and not only idle but gossips
and busybodies..." (1 Timothy 5:13)
Yes, part of that responsibility includes
vacuuming, dust pans and dishes but remember even the chief administrator of
IBM has to delegate vacuuming to someone. Your household is your corporation
and corporate success requires things to run systematic. I know that
stay-at-home Moms are looked down on today (America's greater problem is
lay-at-home Dads), but those that feel they have a despot housewife
calling need not hang their heads for any. The "virtuous wife" of Proverbs is
seen transacting business, buying real estate, uploading investments, chairing
committees and all kinds of uptown projects, yet "her candle goes not
out by night". Her heart is still centered in her home. "Her children rise up
and call her blessed, her husband also, and he praises her" (Proverbs 31:28).
"Her" children and "her" husband, those are the strings that tug most at her
heart. General Hospital has done more damage than good when it comes to General
Hospital-ity. And Desperate Housewives have added to the desperation in today's
homes. Few things offer more peace than a Dad, Mom and children all playing,
praying and staying together in a well-ordered home. And the brains behind the
corporation are the same as they have always been. You know who...Mom.