May 21st, '18
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"He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and
obtains favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22)
Wow, think of all the online dating services
available now. Half the TV commercials as well as those pesky internet pop-ups
clamor for frustrated people's dollars. "Get your free compatibility score".
"If you don't find Mr. Right in six months we'll give you the next six months
free". Now it's date by design; just go down the profile and find a mate that
likes collecting Kewpie dolls and eats a macrobiotic diet yet can also
tag-team-drive a semi-truck. How did Jacob ever find Rachel or Boaz Ruth? Who
needs chemistry when there's a computer model? I still believe in the Bible way
though there are probably some Christian date-a-mate sites that are filling a
much needed role. Solomon sampled too many "prospects". 300 wives and 700
concubines isn't exactly "a wife", singular, as stated in the text that he
wrote. After all the hits and Mrs. it appears that King Solomon longed
for that one bashert, that "intended one" - "He who finds a wife finds a
Notice, he starts with the verb "finds".
Gold must be mined. You don't find diamonds lying around smoke-filled taverns.
God wrote the hunting instinct into our genetic code. If she isn't pursued she
won't be treasured. Having love "click" with just a mouse click seems quite
cheap. The Matchmaker expects us to search. But it's not a fleshly search; not
an anxious whittling down of "is this the one or is that the one or is the
other the right one?" We talk about "finding" Jesus but the way we found Him is
that God brought Him to us and with finger stretched said, "Look, here's life!"
The same holds true in finding "a good thing".
Second, he speaks of finding "a wife".
Listen, if she is not "a wife", that is, wife material, before you find
her she won't be "a wife" six months after the wedding. Some marry a woman
rather than a wife. Some marry the container forgetting they have to live with
the contents. But where God guides He provides. That is, for those unmarried
and seeking His will He has already prepared a complimentary partner despite
the 16-point compatibility test. While Abraham and Isaac scaled Mt.
Moriah, unbeknownst to them, the ram was climbing the mountain on the other
side. You may not see what God is doing "on the other side" but be sure
Jehovah-jireh will provide.
Notice next, he finds "a good thing". A
good wife is a good thing (the other kind, that's another thing). Good because
"she does him good and not evil all the days of his life" (Proverbs 31:12).
It's a long-term commitment. Good because God's grace is at work in her. He
that finds that good thing "obtains favor from the Lord". There are greater
riches than houses and savings bonds, you know. To be loved by God is amazing.
To be loved by God and a spouse is double amazing. If a web-dating service can
facilitate that favor then more power to it. But I would recommend prayer more
than a random eenie-meanie-miny-mo .com search. One lady believed that faith
without works profits nothing so she hung a pair of 32-waist, 34-inseam blue
jeans at the end of her bed and prayed, "Lord, I've waited as long as I think I
can; please fill these pants now with a man". Cute. The hard part in dating is
the waiting. But Paul, in his discourse on marriage, said that "every man has
his proper gift from God" (1 Corinthians 7:7). Junior can't know what his "gift"
is until he opens it Christmas Day. Until then he must wait and watch. Likewise
the patient one "obtains" favor from the Lord. One day faith turns into sight.
Weeping endures for a night but joy comes in the morning. Then obtaining